I’ve been sharing my story since the birth and loss of my daughter . For those of you who don’t know. On 7/27/18, my boyfriend and i went to a scheduled ob appt (my 20 week scan) at 23 weeks. We watched as our baby (we were waiting until delivery to find out the sex) moved around. She was so active. And refused to let the sonographer see her face. The appt was perfect , it was as if time stopped and we felt nothing but love. That was until the MFM(Maternal Fetal Medicine) explained to us that i had no cervix left. I was already dialated 3cm and immediately sent to labor and delivery. We were told we could terminate the pregnancy to not deal with the turmoil of losing a child , but for us that wasn’t an option. We explained to them that we wanted them to interfere and do whatever they could to keep me pregnant. Being 23w3d i was very close to “viability “ and the goal was to at least keep her cooking for at least another 4 days. Unfortunately the next morning at 9:32am I gave birth to the most beautiful baby girl i had ever seen. Fortunately she was perfect. She had a strong beating heart and she looked just like her father. I had never seen or experienced something so beautiful. My baby girl lived for 29 minutes and took her last breath on my chest. I never knew I could experience love that way. We loved that little girl from the day we found out about her. I will not let my daughter be forgotten. She was planned , loved, and we will cherish her forever. A part of my grieving process has been to talk about her , research and connect with other parents that have experienced this same pain.
On October 13th the SHARE program will be hosting their annual “Walk to Remember”. I am asking for donations in honor of my daughter Brynlee Marie Pettis. With your donation we will become a sponsor of the walk. Donations raised last year allowed for the SHARE program to create a new group at Elmhurst Hospital. This year my family and I will be walking and fundraising . SHARE is important to mommies like me. Moms that were unable to go home with their babies , moms that took their babies home and said goodbye too soon, and moms that never got to hold their babies. If you are unable to donate , please sign up to walk. If you can not walk please spread the word. I need your help to bring awareness. 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in loss. That means many women and men you know have experienced this pain as well. This is for all of us. Thank you.